Parenting Just Right – The Number One Secret

23 05 2008

Our number one secret is a simple formula that will help you
parent Just Right. You’ll be in control of your emotions, proud
of your behavior, and pleased with your child’s reactions. Let’s
find out how.

I remember a young father who took his 6-year old daughter for a
walk. His daughter skipped and sang as they headed six blocks
downhill. When they turned around to head uphill, she screamed.
She whined. She cried. She demanded that her daddy carry her on
his shoulders. He told her firmly, “I don’t like the way you’re
talking to me. I won’t carry you.” Then he told her both firmly
and kindly, “But I will take your hand.” She refused to take his
hand. She continued moaning and groaning. She even lagged
behind. When he kept on walking, she ran to catch up. Then she
pulled a new tantrum.

On the Discipline Stick, which looks like a ruler but
doesn’t spank hands, the young father measured Just
Right.
The numbers in the middle between 4-7 represent the
wide middle road and Just Right. He didn’t discipline too
kind or not kind. He didn’t discipline too firm or not firm. He
disciplined with the secret formula – Kind and
Firm.

Kind and Firm can be measured by:

The sound of your voice
The look on your face
The words
you say
The emotions you feel
The actions you take

Kind and Firm:

Sounds respectful
Looks serious
Talks with authority

Feels strong
Acts consistently

You’ll get the results you want if you remember you are the
parent. Your children will learn limits and feel secure if you
are consistent. You’ll enjoy being a parent if you are Kind
and Firm.
You’ll parent Just Right, using one of the
best parenting skills ever, if you ask yourself this powerful
question before disciplining:

How can I be Kind and Firm?

The Wrap-Up:

The 6-year old daughter had 2 more tantrums.
The young
father stayed firm and didn’t give in.
The 6-year old
daughter stopped fussing and took his hand.
You too
can be Kind and Firm.

To parent Just Right ask yourself this powerful question
before disciplining:

How can I be Kind and Firm?

Never let your child’s misbehavior get you down. Boost your
parenting skills by using this secret formula. You’ll be
building character too.



Finding the Wedding Planner

23 05 2008

Are you in love with the dream of the perfect wedding yet overwhelmed with all the details and responsibility put upon you to plan your dream day yourself? A reliable wedding planner can help make the day you’ll always remember a wonderful experience instead of a memory worthy of a nervous breakdown.

Also called wedding consultants or coordinators, wedding planners are the bride’s right hand down to every detail in the ceremony and reception. She can be there the moment after the ring is on the finger to the last guest at the reception. The bride has the choice to give as much or as little responsibility to the planner as she desires.

But how do you know if you should hire a wedding planner? Here are a few examples where a wedding planner can help:

1. The first and probably most important aim of a wedding planner is to relieve as much stress for the bride as possible while still making her feel in control of the event.

2. If you are planning on a budget, your wedding planner will be sensitive and also be capable to balance the expenses. A good planner will prioritize what needs more or less monetary attention. Also, you will more likely go over your budget if you plan alone. Your wedding planner will not only make you stick to your prearranged budget, but also knows many vendors and can find special deals you would otherwise not be able to attain.

3. A wedding planner will be flexible enough to accommodate your dreams for your perfect wedding, they should have the creativity to both encourage and execute your unique ideas. This is your wedding. You know what will make it memorable, and your planner should help make this dream come true. However, these professionals know what is and is not acceptable for a wedding ceremony. A good wedding planner will be honest about your not so great ideas such as the best man’s beer funneling contest.

4. If the ceremony is planned out of state, a planner in that area will be familiar with geography and will know the best vendors for that area.

5. One of the most important qualities of your perfect wedding planner is a shared sense of taste. Ask her what type of weddings she likes and ask to see samples of her past events. The right planner can narrow down choices in a certain category depending on your taste. Instead of thousands of invitations, a wedding planner will weed out the obviously unsatisfactory ones and let you choose from the top three.

6. Finally, wedding planners know all the questions everyone else forgets to ask. If the ceremony is outside, she will remember where the bathrooms are or if portable ones need to be rented. It is the wedding planner’s job to leave no corner untouched.

There are many online resources you can use to search for the closest planners in your area. Remember to interview each applicant to see if they are qualified and if you both see eye to eye. Once your perfect wedding planner is hired, relax and know your big day is in good hands.

Briana Liebmann is a regular writer of original content articles for http://www.youseekit.com, where you can find original content on a variety of topics.

The original article can be found at http://www.youseekit.com/wedding-planners.htm.



God and the Gays: All that Glitters isn’t Gold (Part 2)

23 05 2008

The gay bar scene or high risk promiscuous sex… Is it so happy-go-lucky? Something so sweet and wonderful we’d “wish you were here?” Or is it actually something you wouldn’t wish upon your worst enemy? Is it simply a matter of being well-adjusted? Or resigned? What’s so gay about it all anyway? Who ever dreamed up that label? What about truth in advertising? Some want their money back. Were they sold a line? Is homosexuality a victimless crime? What about their minds? Aren’t they victimized? When they refuse to even “think straight” – aren’t they denying themselves the opportunity to change? After all, isn’t the brain the biggest sex organ?

God has provided for proper sexual satisfaction in marriage; but there’s always that allure of the unknown, the forbidden zone. It arouses our curiosity, attempts to lower our resistance, and seduces our weakened will. In such a state, intoxicated with lust, we could engage in a deadly liaison and only discover later what a fatal attraction it really was (Prov. 5:11). “You play, you pay” (Prov. 6:27). Don’t let a one-night stand be your fall. But isn’t that the main purpose for going out to the bars? And if there’s any such thing as gay community centers, they’d have to be THE BARS! They’re the familiar haunts, pick-up joints, and popular retreats; everything from your local dive to those pulsating places that are practically cities under a roof – something for everyone.

The bars – hallowed be their names – are a place to go when you’re bored, a welcoming-wagon for the new kids on the meat block, and somewhere to let your hair down and unwind, enjoying the company of your substitute family. The gay lifestyle definitely revolves around these dark dens of iniquity. Such a polluted environment naturally encourages drug and alcohol abuse (“communion”), sexual abuse in a casual way with careless partners (“confirmation”), and verbal abuse (Prov. 4:24) in an overflow of raunchy talk (“fellowship”) and gossip – jes’ dishin’ the dirt….

“Out” On the Town

Your first experience “out” on the town (with the boys) could be exhilarating – or bizarre! You might see wonderful men dressed to kill, or hunks in tank tops and T shirts; enter a wet jock-strap contest or watch gyrating male strippers, or view the make-believe world of make-up queens trying to steal the show, a different person on stage…. Then there’s the games people play, the vicious backbiting and hair-pulling of the young and breastless, or the S & M (stand & modeling) crowd who love themselves and lots of mirrors. Quite a carnival atmosphere.

But it kind of puts a damper on your evening’s fun when you go into bars and find yourself greeted by pornographic posters (trying to get across the point about “safe-sex”), or see a fishbowl or platter filled with assorted colors of “life-savers” (condoms); or to order yourself a strong drink and notice AIDS donation jars staring you down: L’Chaim suddenly becomes more personal. And then there’s the endless ads in all the gay mags about HIV testing, “understanding doctors” who’ll screen you in private, surgically remove your hemorrhoids, laser your anal warts, counsel you about your problems, ad nauseum. Makes you eager to jump in bed, eh? Or run scared! But welcome to the real world – the good, the bad, and the ugly. But jump from bed to bed until we all drop dead? Is that what life’s all about?

Isn’t it stupid to keep playing this deadly game (of Russian roulette) until someone doesn’t shoot blanks? DEATHBED takes on a whole new meaning. The next time you want to get “laid” – hope that it’s not in a grave! So what if you can trick with every Tom, Dick, and Harry if you become just another name on the AIDS quilt (a “grave-blanket”). Don’t sell yourself short (John 8:36; Heb. 12:16).

Eventually, the wear and tear, the abuse of your mind and body, is going to take its expensive toll. All of the cheap, mechanical, meaningless, sexploitation has got to affect you. How could you not become desensitized? If you deviate from the strait and narrow, how can you not get lost? If you forget or pervert the original purpose of sex, how can you escape confusion? You’ll condemn yourself to wander in your sexual bewilderment, experimenting with everything since “anything goes.”

Look around you the next time you go out (if you haven’t had enough of that tired crowd and empty scene). From drag-queens to muscle men, welfare alcoholics to executives on cocaine; the homosexual world is as diverse and perverse as the “straight” world. Some men acting like women, some women acting like men; worlds in collision, an identity crisis, suicidal tendencies – but have another drink, what are friends for?

Are “gay” people really so happy? Or just putting on a front? Beneath the smiling faces, love and laughter, you’ll too often find broken hearts and lost dreams. And although the clubs are usually full, there are too many empty individuals who are lonely and aching inside; but the show must go on, drinking and dancing, until another burnt-out dawn….

One-Night Stands

And what are one-night stands, really? Other than quick sex with “no strings attached,” it’s a cheap counterfeit of what we’re actually looking for: true love, undivided attention, special affection, and sincere compliments. We’re starved for love and yet dying from “fast-food.” What we’re really hungry for is some “good ol’ home-cookin’!” But once you’ve lost your looks (if you ever had any), you won’t have to worry about any more “strangers in the night” – unless you’re able and willing to pay them for their time and trouble.

The bar-scene brazenly worships at the altar of youth, and devotes itself to the beauty that’s only skin-deep. Everyone else is thrown on the human heap, scrapped and abandoned. Of course, there’s some “hope” for these discarded lives: they can join the lonely hearts club of dashed hopes and lowered standards. The only requirement is to be desperate and dateless. If I’ve overstated this case, it’s only to emphasize the point that sex sells – and without your youth and/or looks you’re flat broke. It’s twisted values, but reflective of our troubled times.

Happy and in Love?

Many gays will protest that God is a “God of love,” and they think that as long as we’re happy and in love – how could something so right be so wrong? They feel God couldn’t condemn such relationships and wonder how anyone could think He would. But mortal thoughts and opinions aside (Prov. 14:12; Isa. 55:8), if there is a Creator God, and if the Bible is His Instruction Manual for mankind, we’d better base our beliefs solely on what’s revealed within its pages. Faith must have a foundation (Rom. 10:17).

If the homosexual argument that “as long as we’re happy and in love” is valid, couldn’t the same defense be made to sanction incestuous relationships? Or premarital experiences or adulterous affairs? Do we always know what’s best for us? Couldn’t we be like grown-up teenagers who think they know everything, when in reality they don’t?

Hasn’t it been said, and true at times, that “love is blind?” Is it just a matter of feeling happy? Can’t feelings fool us sometimes? Isn’t that why family and friends have cautioned us to “keep your head above your heart?” Is all love proper? Are all affections good and healthy? What about being “lovesick?” Shouldn’t there be some form of standards to judge by or criteria for character? Isn’t there any game plan? Hasn’t love too often been confused with lust (2 Sam. 13:15)?

Satan is “love!”

If we look into the Bible (not Freud, the latest sexual survey, or some kinky report), we’ll find that it does condemn: the love of vanity (Ps. 4:2), of simplicity (Prov. 1:22), of excessive sleep (Prov. 20:13), of religious lies (2 Thes. 2:10), illicit sex, improper lovers, and “foreign affairs” (Ezek. 23:11, 17, 22; 16:37), of evil (Micah 3:2), drunkenness (Hos. 3:1), self-righteousness (Mat. 6:5; 23:6), of money (1 Tim. 6:10), this present world system and its ways (1 John 2:15), spiritual darkness (John 3:19), the kick-back of wrongdoing (2 Pet. 2:15), of ourselves in an unhealthy way and of cheap thrills (2 Tim.3:2,4), violence (Ps. 11:5), strife (Prov. 17:19), and even having a greater love for family or friends than for God (Mat. 10:37).

Therefore, the Bible clearly reveals that various forms of love and feelings are wrong, that certain human relationships are forbidden and condemned (Lev. 18), and that true love must be consistent with God’s character and commandments (1 John 5:3). Any other “love” isn’t from God, but from Satan who is (such) “love!” He’s the clever counterfeit; the snake who confuses the issues and twists the truth. It’s precisely because God is Love (1 John 4:8) that He wants to protect us from those Canaanite customs, perverted practices, and harmful ways that would ultimately undermine our land and lives (Lev. 18:30).

Still, some would angrily question how anyone could allow some old-fashioned Book to dictate their lives; after all, it’s thousands of years old! But who would argue that the time-honored commandments against murder, or prohibition that protects private property or safeguards marriage and minds, or upholds honesty and virtue and being content are outdated? They’re tried, tested, and true. Naturally, it’s easier to accept something as long as it doesn’t hit home or step on our toes. It’s still typical, “A man (or woman) convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” Don’t waste your time confusing them with the facts (Mat. 7:6; 15:14).

This booklet’s intention is to make the plain truth about homosexuality known and available. It’s to assist those who really want to consider what the Good Book has to say. Obviously, this is a very sensitive subject. If someone does become convinced or converted to the truth – great!

More power to them. But if others choose to continue in their contrary lifestyles, dying for sex rather than living for God and His Kingdom – that’s their choice. God gives us all the prerogative to do as we please, but He strongly recommends and encourages us to “choose life” (Deut. 30:10); an even more appropriate message considering the high risk of AIDS. It’s so difficult to TRANSCEND HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS – but we must, if and whenever it’s necessary (Mark 10:28-30).

Living Responsible Lives

Is the first “gay” decade of 2,000 fulfilling prophecy? The “last days” are supposed to be reminiscent of earlier times, “as it was in the days of Noah,” and “as it was in the days of Lot.” How was it in days of yore? Just like today. Apparently, ignoring the dire need to make drastic changes in their lives, they conducted “business as usual” and fiddled about or got carried away with less important things (Deut. 32:47; Mark 4:19). It’s recorded that they ate and drank, got married, and went to work everyday – until they were consumed by their burning desires and swept away by their sins (Luke 17:26-30).

What’s wrong with eating and drinking or working? We might very well wonder. Didn’t God create us with an appetite and a thirst, as well as a need for physical exertion? Yes, but certain tastes, desires and relationships should be nipped in the bud; not allowed to grow or develop or take root (Jas. 1:14-15)! Many things are good of and by themselves, and not wrong, but God’s imposed conditions, restraints and guidelines for us to live by.

We’re meant to enjoy those foods that God has blessed and offered us (Lev. 20:25; 1 Tim. 4:5), and even have an occasional drink, if we want. The Bible condemns gluttony, not eating; drunkenness, not drinking; greed, not need. It’s what we do with what we’re given. And we are instructed to work and be productive, but we’re also commanded to remember the Sabbath (seventh day) to keep it holy. It’s counterproductive to become too busy earning a living, that we neglect learning how to live (2 Pet. 3:18).

Although we’re at liberty to do almost anything, within reason (Gen. 2:16-17), we’re to remember that we’re held responsible for how we handle ourselves and manage our new-found freedoms (Ga. 5:13). We’re not to abuse our privileges (1 Cor. 8:9), but be careful not to get caught up in things that could too easily get out of control (2 Pet. 2:20). A night of good, clean fun can quickly degenerate into an atmosphere of “just like the old times.” We’re entitled to time-out with the boys (or girls), just don’t let your diversion become an obsession (1 Cor. 6:12) – as my mother once warned me!

Keep Your Head Above Your Heart!

Is it – as some would charge – being cold and cruel, even inhuman, to be in control of your mind and emotions? Isn’t it rather mature to exercise proper self-control, sick and tired of giving in to compulsion? Isn’t it judicious to carefully cross-examine every thought, thereby destroying the defense of our death sentence, commuting it in Christ (2 Cor. 1:9; 10:4-5; 1 Cor. 11:31)?

Doing what just comes natural or seems normal might excite Nietzsche; but it’s not good enough for God. God wants us – mere mortals made out of matter – to come to resemble, think and act like Him. “Like Father, like Son.” Why? Is God on some big ego-trip and wants a bunch of clones to come along for the joy-ride? No, but because it’s the only way that’ll work. He ought to know the secret for living happily ever after.

Mankind, after all, was created in the image of the Godkind, and shares the awesome potential to become composed of God’s Spirit – after we’ve developed His characteristics (1 Cor. 15:53). God’s eager to award us all the Diploma of Divinity after we’ve finished the course of conversion (2 Cor. 3:18). Therefore, instead of just doing what comes natural – we’re to do the supernatural! As Christian individuals, we’re to turn the other cheek instead of busting their jaw; forgive rather than fume; pray for our enemies rather than swear revenge. We’re continually called to be different – in contrast, not conformity, to this world (Rom. 8:29).

Tough-Love

There is a time and a place for “tough-love.” We’re not to show the “mercy of fools” for welfare frauds or lazy bums (2 Thes. 3:10), or have compassion on cold-blooded murderers or hardened criminals, despite their many appeals (1 Sam. 15:32-33; Rom. 13:4).

We shouldn’t refuse to use corporal punishment (Prov. 13:24). It might hurt for awhile, but hopefully the lesson (that actions have consequences) will last a lifetime (Prov. 19:18; 23:13; 29:15). It could keep them out of worse trouble later (Ecc.8:11).

We’re also not to allow our emotions for loved ones to lead us to hell (Deut. 7:3-4; 13:6-9), or wrong relationships to get in our way. Despite the grief of saying goodbye, and the pain of tearful separation (2 Sam. 3:14-16; Ezra 10:3), you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. Why make it any more difficult? Don’t procrastinate and prolong your misery. Get it over with and get on with your life! We don’t have time to waste in no-win situations (Ephes. 5:16).

We shouldn’t try and be more understanding and tolerant than God, but refuse to even associate with a Church member who’s living in sin without any apology or shame (1 Cor. 5:1-2, 9-13). And we should NEVER entertain any notions about ordaining such people!

Of course, we shouldn’t cop a self-righteous attitude (Ga. 6:1), but realize the prayerful purpose is to help restore everyone to their senses (knowing that ongoing sin results in an eternal separation). If and whenever such a person “comes to” (Luke 15:17, 20), he’s to be welcomed back with wide-open arms (2 Cor. 2:6-8). A little love can go a long way (as Mama Evans used to say), and encourage us to do even better – rather than give up. But sometimes the situation calls for “shock-treatment” (tough-love), as well as private counseling. “Different strokes for different folks,” so to speak (Luke 12:47-48). The moral of this story? Don’t get blinded by the light: the glitter of “love,” the hot-flash of emotion, and the gleam of relationships (2 Cor. 11:14). The going price for fool’s gold is too high to pay. Walk away. It’s not worth it.

David Ben-Ariel is a Christian-Zionist writer and author of Beyond Babylon: Europe’s Rise and Fall. With a focus on the Middle East and Jerusalem, his analytical articles help others improve their understanding of that troubled region. Check out the Beyond Babylon blog.



Is Your Advertising… Sexy?

23 05 2008

Ever hear the term ’sexy’ advertising? It’s not necessarily what you think. Sure, some people’s idea of sexy advertising is hot babes in bikinis spraying beer all over each other, but that’s overtly sexual and not what we’re about to discuss here.

Do you engage sexy advertising in your marketing campaign? If not, you should.

“Sexy” advertising refers to ads that are highly targeted, yet artfully subtle – and therefore, extremely attractive to the key consumer.

I’m going to try and curb my use of the word ’sexy’ now because I think it’s quite blatant, and therefore not sexy at all. So from now on we’ll try and call them ads that are “attractive.”

What makes an ad (or a person) attractive? People perceive the world through their senses- sight, sound, smell, taste, touch. So if you can appeal to them in any of these five ways, then you may very well become attractive to them.

Let’s talk about the word sensual. Not sexual, but sensual. What’s that mean?

Are you a sensual person? Maybe you savor the feeling of cool water against your bare skin on a hot summer’s day. Perhaps you’re easily carried away on a wild reverie by something as simple as the smell of fresh cut grass. More people are sensual than not sensual, and this greatly affects their buying habits. Appeal to their senses in just the right way, and you’ve got paying customers!

Did you know: too much stimulation actually dulls the senses. If your brain is bombarded with a high concentration of sensation all at once, it just tunes out! Sounds crazy but it’s true. Ever see someone who went overboard with the Botox? Whoa, keep those crazy lips away from me! It’s like this: if your eyes are big, and your nose is sort of big too, then your lips should be small. Too much Bigness = NOT a good thing.

Too much Bigness in your advertising is not a good thing either. Again, it’s about sensory overload. If your website is flashing, waving, winking, blinking, making loud crashing noises and also has a very long diatribe on it that puts the fear of God into your reader… well, who do you expect would sit there and take that? NOBODY! A sensual person knows to take it slow and easy, one sensation at a time. So does a smart marketer.

In advertising and in life, you are the master of how people perceive you. Solid branding is simple, direct, and consistent – and appeals to the customer by way of their senses. That’s attractive advertising. That’s the kind of advertising that will bring in SALES.

Let’s ponder this attraction thing a bit more.

Attraction is not only about a visual, auditory and tactile presentation, but it’s also about pure energy. The key is to be subtle. Energy that’s too strong sends people running the other way!

Direct your energy. Be in the right place at the right time. You can’t be attractive if you’re not even there! So join the entrepreneur and special interest clubs, participate, speak out, pay a few dollars for those memberships. Visibility is the first step in becoming attractive. Get yourself noticed!

Use subtle messages. Suppose you’re a fellow who’s trying to get a little from your lady. How to approach the situation? Well, you could grab her by the hair. But here’s a better idea: be subtly suggestive. Hold her gaze for a little longer than usual. If you’re walking together, brush against her ever so lightly. Maybe later you might gently press your hand into the small of her back, and in this way, quietly plant some thoughts in her head. It’s this slow, steady directing of energy that says, “Let’s get it on, baby” – without actually SAYING those words! You need to be equally subtle in your advertising. You don’t want your customer to know what you’re doing. You just want them to be very, very aware of you.

Attract your customers with advertising that intrigues, teases, and piques their curiousity. Imagine your reader, meandering along, exploring your website with its taseful, understated message and thought-provoking design. They’re not really thinking much about it on a conscious, active level. But underneath, it’s sinking in and getting to them, slowly but surely. THIS is sexy advertising, doing its thing!

Suppose you sell flowers and plants – both of which are quite lovely and don’t need much hype to attract attention. In your advertising, use quality images that really zoom in on the details… a single dewdrop on a velvety petal, some delicate ivy creeping along a handsome stone wall. Sell your product with understated elegance, tasteful design, short copy and text that’s easy on the eyes. That’s how to attract a customer!

The most important and yet most often overlooked fact about attractive advertising is this: You must emotionally connect with your audience.

Let’s talk about that hypothetical skilled lover guy I mentioned earlier. “Prince Charming,” we’ll call him. Why’s he so charming? He is able to gauge his lovers’ emotions, know their fears and weaknesses, and then say just the right thing that will make them feel safe, protected and appreciated. In doing this, he charms, or mesmerizes the object of his desire. In doing this, he mentally connects with them- and that’s the biggest attractor of all.

Everybody’s talking about hypnotic copy. It’s the kind of writing that, like Prince Charming, puts a spell on your customer, attracts and endears them to you, and most of all, makes them trust you.

A huge part of branding is trust. When your customers feels connected to your brand, they’ll come back again and again. They’ll tell all of their friends about you. They’ll invest their money in your product beause they really believe in you!

Want a perfect example of attractive advertising and expert branding? Disney. You love and believe in Disney, right? How did that happen? Disney slowly and steadily positioned themselves as an icon of childhood dreams, a safe haven for the imagination and a company that’s as devoted to your family as you are. Disney cares… right? Of course they do. They said so, in their advertising! They make those movies with tender baby animals, and mommies and magic and true love, and it’s so emotional and the animation is so perfect, that you can see the love dripping right down the movie screen and you can feel it beating right along with your heart.

Talk to your customers they way that Disney talks to theirs. Show them love, every day. Do it in your written materials, and also in your daily interactions with them. They should feel like they’re being heard, catered to, appreciated and understood. This is the stuff that big, big dreams are made of, and it is damned sexy advertising.

Okay, let’s review. We want our ads to be sexy. We want to attract and mesmerize our key customers. How do we do this?

1. Stimulate their senses (but don’t overload them)
2. Direct and focus your energy
3. Keep it subtle
4. Establish an emotional connection

Now you have everything you need go out there and captivate your audience of buyers. They’re ready for love, so give it to them. Charm them and disarm them, with attractive advertising that sells your product and keeps them coming back for more. Go on, I know you can do it! You sexy thang.

Copyright 2005 Dina Giolitto. All rights reserved.

EzineArticles Expert Author Dina Giolitto

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The R(E)volution of Lean Manufacturing

23 05 2008

Lean Works! For some…

Lean Manufacturing as a management tool has taken the manufacturing industry by storm, and companies around the globe have adopted Lean methods in many forms and by many names. Large enterprise companies like Toyota, Dell Computer, and Pratt & Whitney have achieved dramatic reductions in delivery time and lowered inventory levels, while increasing responsiveness to customer demand and improving cash flow.

As evidenced in thousands of organizations, in many different industries, “Lean Enterprise” is one of the most promoted and competitive business models in use today. Published case studies provide one example after another of companies that have substantially reduced waste and associated costs. There are countless testimonials describing how companies rose to leaders in their respective industries by becoming “world class” in Lean. There are documented results of compressing order lead-times by more than 80%, reducing work-in-process inventories by 90%, improving quality to a Six Sigma level, and freeing up 60% of resources. And, the successes aren’t limited to only large and well-known organizationsthere are also many small-company examples.

The good news is that these Lean concepts and tools are not highly complex, and can be easily learned by people of all levels of education and job responsibility. Lean “tools” include 5S, Value Stream Mapping, and concepts/terms like kaizens and kanbans. A search on the Internet or in the advertising section of almost any business magazine will identify hundreds of individuals and consulting firms who tout successful Lean facilitations or who offer education courses to help companies successfully implement Lean.

The bad news is that even as the trend of Lean adoption continues, the success rate is lowless than 20% of companies are successful with Lean.

Why do so many companies fail in their Lean initiatives? If the results are so obvious, and best practices available in the form of published success stories, what’s the problem? With thousands of consulting experts and just as many training courses available, why aren’t the majority of companies successful with Lean, and why isn’t everyone using this incredibly profitable management strategy?

Good questions.

The typical approaches used by most companies today do not provide an optimal return on investment to companies. The “missing link” between Lean goals and successful projects that produce the intended result is a strategy for Lean. For companies to reach their desired destination of success with Lean, they must first plan the journeybut many start off with the wrong perspective of success.

Starting IncorrectlyLack of Strategic Approach

The fact is that people often struggle with the most basic of problems when implementing Leanwhere to begin. Where and how people start a Lean initiative is critical to the success of the first Lean project. If the first project isn’t successful, there is a good chance that there won’t even be a second effort, and the first project won’t be successful if there is no measurable impact to the bottom line or to strategic objectives.

Unfortunately, most Lean efforts begin with a tactical approach, rather than a strategic one. This is a key factor in the high percentage of failed Lean programs. Ironically, a tactical approach is advised by most Lean consultants. This is because Lean has evolved from operational improvements outward, and that Lean consultants are either not familiar with strategy creation or are not ready to apply Lean beyond manufacturing. Also, a tactical approach quickly uncovers “low-hanging fruit,” and consultants are striving for quick wins and immediate credibility. They’re not in it for the long haul with a particular client, and more often than not they’re content with a hit-and-run effort.

Many organizations begin with “how”, and applying a specific technique (e.g., 5S) or perhaps with “what” to start first (identifying “kaizens”). Others may focus on “who” and provide training for selected individuals or teams, while some begin with “where” and begin building Value Stream Maps.

Let’s explore these further.

5S

Many companies begin Lean by employing a technique called 5S, or Workplace Organization. The “5″ and “S” come from the five Japanese words; seiri, seiton, seiso, seiketsu, and shitsuke. The English equivalents (keeping the “5S” theme in mind) are: sort, set, shine, standardize, and sustain. Essentially, this is a method for organizing a work area, focused on improving efficiency, safety, layout, and flow.

5S efforts produce some immediate and visible results. Workplaces are indeed better organized. Tools and materials are now maintained in well defined locations, making them easier to find and more quickly accessible for use. Operators notice that their jobs require less effort than before. Supervisors find that it’s simpler to identify problems such as inefficiencies, excess inventory, and misplaced equipment. There may be a marginal increase in productivity, even if 5S is used in isolation from other Lean strategies or tools.

But the direct bottom line benefits of a stand-alone 5S program are difficult to measure, and even so, the improvements tend to be isolated. Improved value in the overall system and the impact on throughput is difficult to quantify.

Kanbans

The word kanban means visible record in Japanese. In Lean lexicon, it is essentially a signal to produce or move product. A kanban may be an electronic signal, an empty bin, a card, a pallet, or a defined area to hold inventory. Kanbans are used to manage inventoryquantity and flow.

In the ideal Lean world, product is “pulled” towards the customer, through the factory, from the supplier in quantities of onehence the term one-piece-flow. However, in many circumstances, it’s impractical to produce and move product one piece at a time. So kanbans serve as the “acceptable” compromise; allowing the company to move small, controlled batches of material in a “pull” environment.

The use of kanbans can dramatically reduce total inventory. Since lead-time is almost directly proportional to work-in-process inventory (WIP), kanbans can provide a significant improvement in production lead-time.

But, there can be problems. Using kanbans without other coordinated improvements (such as reducing equipment changeover times) can backfire, resulting in degradation in equipment utilization and even increases in the number of late shipments. Also, note that since kanbans are a compromise to true one-piece-flow, companies that have implemented effective kanban systems sometimes become complacent and do not address the root causes that created the various needs to maintain inventory, such as long changeover times, imbalanced processes, long distances between work centers, quality problems, and lack of operator cross-training.

Kaizens

Also, known as kaizen blitz. This may be the most common starting point for a Lean initiative in US manufacturing companies. Kaizen is the Japanese word for continuous improvement. This approach involves empowering work teams to rapidly (hence, the word blitz) improve specific problems within their areas of responsibility.

On the surface, this seems like a very good idea, and it can generate immediate and measurable benefits. The use of kaizens, especially if championed by management, finally proves to the workforce that the company is interested in listening to and supporting their improvement suggestions. Some of the more common targets for kaizens include; solving an equipment downtime problem, combining two or more machines into a work cell, setting up a kanban, reducing equipment changeover time, and implementing point-of-use storage for supplies (maintaining storage where the supplies are actually used).

But, this program can fall prey to a phenomenon known as “drive-by kaizens”improvements are implemented stand-alone, without prioritization, and without understanding how changes in one part of the facility might negatively impact other business functions, resources, suppliers, or customers. Other critical problems with this approach are that it tends to overlook consensus, and there is little time taken to actually identify and eliminate root causesthere is more focus on speed of execution than there is on planning or results.

Value-Stream Mapping (VSM)

It’s important to note that value stream mapping is a relatively recent addition to the slate of Lean tools. A value stream is defined as all activities and events (both value-added and non-value-added) that a product or service passes through on its way from supplier to customer. In a manufacturing facility these activities include shipping, waiting (in inventory, in a queue to be processed, or even in an oven waiting for adhesives to cure), packaging, inspection, rework, and both manual and automated processing. A VSM includes both the flow of product and information.

The primary purpose of a VSM, specifically a “current state map,” is to highlight areas where one-piece-flow breaks downthese points suggest opportunities for improvement (i.e., kaizens). Other purposes of mapping include; measuring the total cycle time, identifying inventory locations and balances, and determining points in the process where signals to produce arise.

Once a current state map is created, one or more “future state maps” are developed from it, showing where various kaizen events might eliminate root causes for stoppages in flow. The two reasons for creating multiple future state maps are; (1) certain improvements might be logistically-, technologically-, or cost-prohibitive, and (2) there is no single correct future state. The VSM approach is significantly more effective than the other approaches because it prioritizes the improvement efforts.

This technique, like the others, has its drawbacks. One issue is that it involves those individuals who will be impacted by the change much later in the improvement cycle than the 5S and Kaizen techniquesthis late involvement of stakeholders tends to create resistance to change.

Value Stream Maps also have an inherent weakness in their inability to capture the dynamic nature of a process, since the measures are often only a snapshot in time. Seasonality, variability in demand and fluctuations in supply and associated lead times are not easily captured or measured in a VSM.

Perhaps the most significant shortcoming with the way VSM is done today is that it tends to ignore the impacts on or impacts from “competing value streams” and support functions. In most organizations there exists more than one value streammore than one product line, or one product line that produces two or more different items. These different value streams frequently compete for resources; equipment, people, materials, suppliers, etc. Additionally, all organizations have departments that support the operations or production departmentaccounting, purchasing, quality, maintenance, engineering, etc. If the value stream changes without understanding how it impacts a competing value stream or a support function, this may negatively impact the overall organization.

Training

Many companies start with large-scale Lean training before selecting any specific approach or defining a specific project. The training curriculum for Lean can include not only the previously-mentioned topics of 5S, Kaizens, Kanbans and Value Stream Mapping but also topics like Workcell Design, Conflict Management, Project Management, Metrics/Measurements and Teamwork.

Training is a favorite strategy for consultantsit provides high daily revenues, is risk-free and there’s no pressure to deliver any result other than a trained audience.
The value of training is that it’s broad-based, provides value to the individuals involved and sends a message that management is serious about implementing Lean. The techniques themselves are relatively easy to learn, and training is primarily techniques-based. Training supports the afore-mentioned strategies of starting at a tactical level, which is where most organizations start Lean.

However, unless the training is carefully coordinated, there is a risk of the learned skills not being applied on a project quickly, resulting in wasted training time and investments. Unless the training is provided to teams that have a clear mandate to provide a solution in a specific area, the training will not produce measurable business results. Training alone does not provide measurable benefits to the bottom line, and is therefore a weak starting point.

Lean Failure Factors

To summarize the challenges, there are many approaches to Lean, some more successful than others.

• Organizations may choose to begin with a tool/technique approach to Lean, applying 5S to a broad cross-section of the business, or identifying a specific problem area for a “kaizen” event as an attempt in “do it yourself” Lean.

• Organizations and instructional companies who offer Lean training and certification programs insist (no surprise) that organizations must learn all about Lean before starting, and that training is the way to best leverage Lean.

• Consultants with specific subject-matter expertise or experience in other similar industries advise that companies begin with the creation of a “current state” Value Stream Map on a selected product line or business area, circling back to apply specific techniques in areas of weakness. This usually results in incremental improvements, visible within that specific area.

• Other consultants advise that a “clean slate” approach be used to envision the future “perfect world” and ideal business model without being encumbered by analysis of the existing value streams.

Each of the above approaches is effective to some extent. Unfortunately, there are even more stories about how Lean doesn’t workaccording to most studies, less than 20% of Lean initiatives accomplish the desired goal or result in a Lean-centric organization.

This seems to be a paradox, in that while Lean is an effective management tool and there are many Lean “experts” and books available to help guide the journey, most companies fail in the effort.

The pragmatic and honest articles and books on Lean talk about project pitfalls, resistance to change, and the lack of return on the investment. Many Lean consultants begin their sales presentations with warnings about how complex Lean is. Managers who resist adoption talk about how Lean doesn’t fit their business model or apply to their industry.

Specifically, the following are some of the more common reasons cited for Lean failures:

• Lack of management support

• Resistance to change (lack of buy-in) from supervision and workforce

• Poor metrics

• Not enough training

• Little or no impact on profitability

• Ineffective communications

• Not able to sustain initial efforts

• Not expanding improvement from the initial efforts to other departments

• Improvements in one area seemed to have negative impacts in others

How do business leaders resolve this contradictory information and multitude of approaches? Do the companies and individuals who have been successful know something others don’t know? Is there a skill set that’s only available to a select few? Does Lean really only apply to certain types of industries, organizations, or even more narrowly to very specific process or product families within manufacturing facilities? And, even if a manager has evidence (or faith) that Lean is worth trying, how can he or she avoid being one of the many failed case studies?

Key Observations

Over the past several years, we’ve personally witnessed many effective and ineffective Lean initiatives. In the book, “The Machine that Changed the World,” Womack, et. al., made the case for a Lean enterpriseemploying the principles identified and developed by Toyota. And, US companies, primarily the manufacturing sector, accepted the challenge. However, organizations weren’t prepared for the aforementioned obstacles and set-backs, especially since their Lean projects were most often started at an operational level with little or no consideration of strategic objectives.

In order to address the paradox that Lean works, but not for most businesses, we decided to focus the research and thinking not on Lean failures, and not even solely on Lean successes. Instead, we chose to study best practices in strategic initiatives and try to identify the common threads among the various Lean successes and failures.

The first observation is that the issues noted as “failure factors” appear to be pervasive conditions and not explicit reasons or root causes. Rather than explaining why the Lean enterprise effort failed, these tend to simply be part of the existing company culture. In other words, these circumstances are not specific to Lean, but would be stumbling blocks to any strategic implementation that the company might undertake. Conversely, those organizations that have overcome these issues during other major initiatives have a much higher probability of being successful with Lean.

The second observation is rather obviousthere’s nothing unusual about why companies choose the typical approaches to Lean as defined earlier. The marketing hype around Lean, from articles, books and consulting organizations focuses on a tactical beginning. Also, the tools and techniques are relatively easy to learn and apply in specific areas or to specific problems. Companies are under enormous pressure to increase their efficiencies and reduce costs, and there is a sense of urgency to get started with Lean. Since the tactical or operational approaches are the ones commonly recommended, readily available, and easily understood, it’s the logical (not necessarily correct) starting point for Lean.

Finally, the third key observation, perhaps the most important, is that the typical approaches to Lean are for the most part too narrow in their focus and all too often used as stand-alone tactics. The results are sub-optimal improvements that either have too small of an impact on throughput, no measurable bottom line value, or take much longer than they should to achieve the original purpose of adopting Lean.

What’s Necessary to Succeed

The conclusion is that Lean initiatives that are successful on a large scale have something in place that failed efforts do nota Lean strategy, a different way of thinking and a unique strategic focus. Organizations that are dramatically successful with Lean take a much broader view of processes, stakeholders, and business objectives.

A strategic foundation has many components, including principles of development and rules of communication. Development of this roadmap is a dynamic and iterative process, since a business strategy must adapt to changing external pressures, and a framework for Lean must be as agile as a company’s customers, suppliers, and outside influences demand.

Seldom, if ever, are “big” problems (such as the ones being tackled by Lean) limited to only one business area, department, or product linemultiple departments and dozens or even hundreds of business processes are linked together in value streams, and there are a myriad of interdependencies and interactions across and between all of these. If these are not understood, the impacts are discovered too late, and proposed or implemented changes suffer, as do the people involved.

Every combination of people, processes, culture, industry, and drive is unique, and some organizations and leaders simply seem to understand how to define and execute a strategy, while others do not. Executing a Lean strategy is similar in many respects to implementing a total quality management (TQM) strategy or a Six Sigma program across the enterprise. These programs have been implemented successfully in many organizations. The difference seems to be that Lean is more likely than TQM or Six Sigma to be initiated without a “top-down” approach or clear business objectives.

The key tool that is missing in the strategic arsenal for Lean is a method for strategic planning and tactical selection of business processes for the application of Lean.

Evaluating the Lean Strategy (or lack thereof)

If companies are starting or have already started Lean and don’t have a strategy in place, they’re at risk of failure at worst, and of delaying/reducing benefits at best.

If there is a Lean strategy, but it is focused on operational improvements rather than on higher profits and an increased ability to compete, it is an ineffective strategy. Starting at a tactical level, as most organizations do with Lean, results in only limited and short-term improvements and a cost-cutting mentality that ensures long-term loss of market shareFord, General Motors, Delphi and Iomega come to mind. Companies should consider that cost-cutting the way to prosperity isn’t a high probability success strategy. Growth is the key, and revising the Lean strategy as stated in the previous paragraph is advised.

By looking at the business as a “value system” for customers, companies can shift their Lean strategic priorities to growth-oriented targets, not cost-cutting ones. Instead of trying to squeeze additional margins to boost the bottom line (and share price), Lean can and SHOULD help increase sales and response to demand while maintaining and lowering cost-per-unit, therefore enabling us to lower prices, undercut the competition, and win more business.

The R(E)volution in Lean isn’t complex. But in order for companies to succeed with Lean, they must shift their perspective to one of growth and recognize that cost-cutting is a by-product rather than the key strategy for Lean. A key part of the Lean strategy must be the expansion of projects to encompass the entire value stream, rather than limiting efforts to tactical efforts. And finally, strategic actions that merge customer and business value, focusing on customers, value, responsiveness and quality.

Businesses that thrive in today’s changing environment will capitalize on the R(E)volution, and leverage Lean to do what Toyota and Dell have donedominate their markets.

For a pdf version of the White Paper that outlines a Lean Strategic Planning Framework, contact the authors.

Robert Osborne has worked in the business process and IT industries for over thirty years. He has held VP positions in sales and professional services for enterprise software vendors and integrators, provided consultative services for dozens of US and international clients and trained over 500 professionals in project management, systems development and business process methodologies and techniques. Robert is the founder of Business Breakthroughs and the developer of the Business Value System Framework. He can be reached at rosborne@great-solutions.biz.

Jerry D. Kilpatrick has worked for three Fortune 500 manufacturing organizations and has more than 25 years of experience in Lean Manufacturing. Jerry is a former Manufacturing Extension Partnership executive, and has been a consultant in the manufacturing sector since 1997, specializing in business process improvement, executive coaching, business assessments, strategic planning, and project management. Jerry holds a Masters of Administration in Industrial Management. He can be reached at Kilpatrick.Jerry@comcast.net.



How to Persuade Others by Persuading Yourself First

22 05 2008

Most people are horrible at knowing what you are thinking at any given moment. That’s because a direct line of communication is needed to transfer those thoughts clearly and accurately to the other person, hence it’s the main reason why we have so many problems with miscommunication. On the other hand, people are very good at knowing how you are feeling by picking up on your verbal and non-verbal cues. People are very attuned to these subtle differences and it’s something that is very difficult to hide. If I was upset at a friend and I told her, “I’m fine,” she would know that I was not in fact in a good mood, but in a bad one just by my vocal intonations and my body language. I projected, what I call “negative energy” in her direction.

The point of this is that when we are talking to a person, we tend to focus on the word selection that will best persuade them to act the way we desire, but in fact, word selection has less to do with actual persuasion than the way it is presented. Even the best word choice possible is not going to persuade someone to buy from you, or persuade that girl to date you, because you are exuding negative energy in the form of anxiety or stress. This negative energy also has a persuasive power of its own. If you exude nervousness or anxiety, then your negative energy will also persuade the other person to also share in that anxiety or stress, which will not help your situation.

Law of Persuasion: People Will See You The Way You See Yourself

Shy people know that they always seem to miss out on the good things because they never take initiative, or when they do, they do it half-assed. In order to persuade you have to first convince yourself that you are confident. This is the first most crucial step in persuasionpersuading yourself first. If you cannot persuade yourself that something can be done, then there is no point in trying to convince someone else of the same thing because your energy is going to persuade them in the direction that you are thinking. You must change that mindsetchange that energy to guide them in the direction that you want.

Building Your “War Cry”

Before you even talk to the other person, you are going to have to mentally prepare yourself to take on the challenge of exuding confidence. This requires giving your confidence level an adrenaline boost. How do you do this? A simple technique that you can use is to give yourself a War Cry before you charge into the situation. A War Cry is what I refer to as something you say in your mind to prepare yourself for combat. Professional athletes, soldiers, negotiators and other professionals use this technique quite frequently to “psych” themselves up before the big game. It’s no different in your case. A War Cry has to be something very unique to you. The purpose of it is to instill strength and courage into your spirit. A War Cry should make you feel invincible for a short period of time. No one can hurt you. Some people use battle cries like, “Ok, let’s go,” “Win ‘em over,” “Engage.” The motto has to be something that works for you. But every time you go into a situation where you feel your confidence is slipping, repeat your slogan to yourself before you enter into the situation.

Keypoints

• People can feel your energy, even if you try to hide it.

• Your energy, whether positive or negative, will influence the other person.

• The first step towards persuasion is being able to convince yourself of the intended outcome.

• Build yourself a “War Cry” to boost your confidence before engaging a situation.

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Avoiding A Nightmare On Renovation Street

22 05 2008

You’ve decided you want a bigger, better and more desirable house. How do you determine when to renovate, what to do and importantly, how much will it cost and will we get our money back?

Unless you’re in the building industry, most people are fairly nave when it comes to making decisions about renovating. Poor choices can be costly, especially if you over-capitalise and spend too much money on the house of your dreams.

Michael Hoad of the Subiaco offices of real estate agents Paxton Hoad says many people make the mistake of not planning and fully costing their renovations.

“Any form of construction costs more than you think when you start and many people don’t understand or underestimate what it costs to renovate.”

“They make a lot of mistakes, often costly ones, such as why did I do that, I wish I made that smaller or bigger,” he said.

Hoad also believes renovations date and what looked wonderful and up to date in 1985 may now look totally out of place.

“Everything has a life span and people really need to work out how long they’re going to be in the house and the purpose for the renovations.”

To avoid overcapitalising he recommends potential renovators look at the suburb and get a feel for what property is worth in the area before committing.

He gives the example of Subiaco, where land is tight, “if you’ve got a spot, in a half reasonable location, you’ll get your money back and more.”

He gives the example of owners in the suburb spending between $250,000 and $350,00 on renovations.

“The greatest increment is in the value of the land, houses generally depreciate offsetting increasing construction costs.”

He also gives the example of a house valued at $400,000, where the transaction costs of moving cost more than $26,000 once agents fees and stamp duty are taken into account.

“Renovating is rewarding, it appeals to some people. Some people love it and others are not so creative,” Hoad said.

Fremantle based architect, Philip Nikulinsky says many renovators get emotionally attached to a house and this is where they either overcapitalise or compromise the design of the renovation.

“A lot of people spend too much on the finishes and go overboard, that’s when it becomes expensive.”

“You’ve got to look at the end product. Every time you do something a bit different you’re going to have to pay for it,’ he said.

He says any significant renovation starts at around $120,000 and for older character style renovations owners should budget around $1,200 per square metre.

Nikulinsky’s advice, “be rational about it, have nice finishes but don’t go overboard.”

This is a view backed up by builder Gary Matson of Subiaco Homes. He says it’s often cheaper to demolish a house and start again.

“For 30s, 40s and 50s houses there’s not a lot to retain, so you’re spending a lot of money to achieve fairly little,” he said.

In older areas he says its worth keeping the character, but again emphasises the importance of doing a budget and looking at ways of how money can be saved to avoid blowing out the budget.

Here are 8 tips for first time renovators.

1. Have your house valued. Get an independent view on how much your asset is worth. This will provide a benchmark on how much to spend.

2. Gather information about your area. Talk to real estate agents about how much properties in your area or street have been selling for. Get a feel for the market.

3. Work out what you want? What style of renovation do you want? In period or ultra-contemporary? What will you use the renovations for? What type of look do you want? This will determine the finishes and impact on your budget.

4. Plan your budget before you start. Work out how much you want to spend, how you will finance your renovations and what you expect to get for your money. Do you want to spend $6,000 on a kitchen or $26,000?

5. Do your sums and compare the costs of renovating versus selling.

6. Take a long hard look at the positives and negatives of each option in a logical and rational way.

7. Avoid becoming emotionally attached to your property or a design. Often this can cloud your views, costing too much money for your budget or impacting on the overall effect of the renovation. Take a rational approach to the decision of selling and moving versus renovating, or demolishing versus renovating.

8. Seek professional help. Get a range of quotes from builders, architects and those in the industry.

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Can You Live The Christ Life?

22 05 2008

Were you lied to as newborn Christian? I was…let me explain.

You are a Christian, right? So, Can you live the Christ life? Well I guess I want

to get a little more involved than that. I want to ask you if you can live the

Christ life by your own effort!

If you’re like me, you were probably brought up in a Church where the pastor told

you every Sunday how you were supposed to act. He probably told you that you needed

to do such and such in order to be a “good Christian”.

And what if that stuff was hard to do? If you had a problem with a certain sin,

what was the advice that you received. How was it recommended that you go about the

subject of “living the Christian life”? If your early Christian education was like

mine you were lied to!

The way to success I was told was through willpower. Grittin’ the teeth and whatnot

and just to “buckle down and do something for God”. No matter how uncomfortable it

may of seemed.

And uncomfortable it was! Are you still with me? I’m sure I’m not the only one that

found the burdens of Christianity hard to live with. What could be heavier than the

burden of a God that was displeased with your level of performance? Nothing comes

to mind for me. Why then does the Bible say this in Matthew 11:29-31:

“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and

you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

And I’d bet dollars to donuts that I’m not the only one that found myself failing

more than I was succeeding-am I right? Sure you might get nice and fired up about

being a good Christian once or twice but then you’d fail and the “failure,

condemnation, rededication Cycle” would set in (to quote a phrase coined by Dr.

Steve McVey). After the failure, I’d feel condemned that I had failed God. After

that period of self pity and general feeling of patheticness (Is that even a

word?), I’d rededicate my efforts to do better for God the next time.

Sound familiar? Would you like to get off that religious rollercoaster ride and

find the rest spoken of by Jesus? Are you ready for the Truth? Good, let me tell

you what it’s all about!

The Truth is that you, by your own efforts, can not live the Christian life!

Consider this verse:

“This is the only thing I want to find out from you: did you receive the Spirit by

the works of the Law, or by hearing with faith?
Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit,
are you now being perfected by the flesh?”
Galatians 3:2-3

Didn’t you come to salvation and the Christian life by faith in Christ to bring you

that salvation? So why would you try to live that Christian life by your own effort

instead of by faith in the one that will live it through you?

This is the key that will set you free. You can not live the Christian life, only

Christ can! It makes sense doesn’t it. He did it over 2,000 years ago and he is

capable of doing it through you today! Consider Hebrews 4:15:

“For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but

One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin.”

Jesus has lived the “Christ Life” and he will do it through you if you let him!

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Have a blissful Atlanta Wedding Reception!

22 05 2008

The beginning of the journey of two souls begins with their vows
on their wedding day and thus a wedding should be perfect,
flawless and blissful. Everything right from the table linen to
the food, the venue and especially the wedding gown has to be
perfectly arranged with meticulous effort. If you are going for
a memorable and hassle-free Atlanta wedding reception, one of
the finest venues that you should consider is the Emory
Conference Center. Only ten minutes away from downtown Atlanta
and situated within clean and fresh forest nature surroundings,
a wedding reception at the Emory Conference Center will be
breathtaking.

Hosting your wedding at Emory will give a choice of five halls
for your Atlanta wedding reception. Varying in sizes and room
décor theme, you can decide which type of theme that you want
your wedding reception to be and match them to the room. From a
Garden atmosphere to a Mill House, the staff at Emory will
ensure that you wedding reception will be planned to sheer
perfection. In fact, you can even opt to host your wedding
reception outdoors in their Garden Courtyard surrounded by lush
greenery or at their Silver Pavilion with French Doors and even
a fireplace. Moreover, they have also included in their wedding
packages, private reception rooms, cake cutting services,
customized dance floor, excellent cuisine with a wide choice of
menus, a cake table and serving staff in tuxedo fit for a grand
wedding party.

Couples opting for a more contemporary wedding reception with a
focus on great food and a party atmosphere should check out The
Clubhouse located in the city directly opposite Lenox Square.
Atlanta wedding receptions held here will definitely have a huge
selection of dinner or hi-tea menus, cocktail and bar
selections, all of which are prepared by their talented chefs.
Apart from that, The Clubhouse offers party decoration services
from flower arrangements, to live music, to even a selection of
chocolate wedding favors for you to choose from. With this, you
will be sure that there won’t be anything that you will miss out
on, as The Clubhouse would have taken care of everything for
your dream Atlanta wedding reception!

The sports fans couples will surely be taken by the idea of
having their wedding reception with a view of the Atlanta Turner
baseball field. Situated within the stadium, the 755 Club in
Turner Field offers a spectacular view of the field amidst the
Atlanta skyline. The food served is one of the best in Atlanta
with a wide variety of steaks, seafood and desserts; this will
be a wedding reception that your guests will never forget! Built
with a floor space of 24000 square feet, this venue is capable
of hosting up to 500 guests and includes Atlanta wedding
reception planning services as well. That is why you won’t have
to worry yourself too much with a reception here as everything
would have been taken cared of!

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Why Silk Plants Instead Of The Real Thing?

22 05 2008

Should I buy silk plants and flowers for my home or office or go with real ones? You should take into account a few factors that may help make your decision an easier one. Along with todays technology making silk plants look more lifelike than ever, below you will find ten reason to pick silk plants and flowers over the real thing.

1. Silk plants offer long term savings over real ones due to the fact that they require very little attention if any.

2. No insects, in real plants insects like the moisture from the watering and will take home in the plant.

3. They eliminate indoor allergies created by real plants and flowers.

4. They will never outgrow the space they are in.

5. Pets are not attracted to them like real plants eliminating accidents and clean up.

6. You’ll never have water damage from the pot leaking or spilling when watering real plants.

7. If your in an office it significantly reduces security issues by limiting the number of maintenance visits.

8. For outdoor silk plants you won’t have to use harmful pesticides.

9. No Mold or mildew buildup from watering too much.

10. You can add and rearrange silk flowers and plants to meet your individual tastes at any particular time.

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